october 2013 – monthly theme post listing – birth story

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Here are the submissions for this month’s theme: Birth Story . We had a great response and variety of how your birth/adoption story affected your parenting style (or not). We hope you’ll read through and enjoy all these great entries. I know for myself, I always love reading birth/adoption stories as it helps me process my own story and examine things from a new light. Thanks again for all your submissions and feel free to link up any additional posts in the comments and we will add them to the list.

How did the birth experience of your child affect your parenting of this child?

If you adopted and were at the birth how did that affect you?

If you adopted and were not able to witness the birth do you think that affected your parenting? (ie, did you strive to have frequent skin-to-skin contact and other bonding measures as we did when we fostered an infant?)

How did the birth/adoption experience affect your future plans? Would you do it all again the exact same way? Change things? Decide to not have more children?

What sticks out in your birth/adoption experience that you still carry with you? (good or bad)

What type of birth did you have? (I love reading birth stories!)

Have you felt “judged” about your birth(adoption) experience, and has that affected your parenting or future plans?

S, of Conception Misconceptions , tells us “So my birth experience wasn’t positive. . . it’s had no effect on my parenting.” in her submission, PAIL Bloggers October 2013 Monthly Theme Post .

Cathy, of And Mom writes that her trip to the NICU is what helped her find her voice in Question Everything .

Alleyrose, of Baking and Babies writes in her submission , “Though I wouldn’t change my birth story for the world, I’ve still got a lot to process.

My Life Is About The Journey submits her post that talks about the “host of issues and complications that I had during my son’s birth and how they continue to haunt me” in her post My Childbirth Baggage .

The Cornfed Feminist tells us “LEEP+Shot=Vajanus. And a hella cute baby. (This post is unabridged, so be ready to commit.)” In her post, Something Just Happened to My Vagina, Birth Story: The Extended Cut

Emma, of Emma in Mommyland , offers “A brief-ish look at my experiences surrounding my son’s birth and what I want to be different next time.” In her post, Birth Wishes: Last Time vs This Time .

Foxy, of This Foxy Mama says that she has “no doubt that the grief and pain of infertility impacted our birth and bonding experience.” In her post, Birth and Infertility .

Kasey, of Powersfullife , writes about “how I want my second birth to be different and what I learned from the first (bad) time around.” In her post There’s a Baby in There!

Christina, of According to C hopes that the “positive experience with the birth of my first child will provide me with the foundation to have a positive experience delivering the second!” In her post, The Impact of Birth .

Esperanza, of Stumbling Gracefully writes “My second child’s birth is unexpected, and yet exactly what I wanted.” In her post, A Second Birth Story .

Kacey, of Recipe for a Baby , writes about her two c-sections, that were both planned, but both ended up as emergency sections, in her post, Birth Stories .

Josey, of My Cheap Version of Therapy , shares that she is “Learning to live my life – and not just the pregnancy & childbirth parts – by the HypnoBabies tenants of Open, Relax, Release, and Peace.” In her post, Open, Relax, Release, Peace .

Mrs T (formerly missohkay), of A Plus Effort , writes about the “isolation of being a mother with no birth story.” In her post, The Outskirts .

CJ, of MetholicBlog , writes how in facing IF again her birth story haunts her in her post, Birth Story Hauntings .

KeAnne of, Baby With a Twist , writes about feeling excluded from a ‘higher level’ of the Mom club due to her surrogacy experience in, If Your Child is Born but You aren’t the One Giving Birth, is it Still Your Birth Story?

Courtney of, All the Sun for You , tells us that “All birth stories are valid, even the ones you can’t relate to.” In her post Birth, Birth, Birth, Ugh .

Geochick of, Geo-Chick, An Engineer Becomes a Mom , offers her perspective, as an adoptive parent, on birth stories in her post, Birth Story .

Kelly of, Kellyland reflects on how a scary birth affected her parenting and things she’d like to change if she has another baby in, PAILbloggers, Birth Stories .

It’s Just a Box of Rain contributed her experience through adoption in Birth stories when you aren’t the one who has given birth

Connected Through Love also shared her adoption experience in M’s Birth Story

Punch Today in the Face wrote her post, PAIL – Birth Story , and compared how the births of her three children all affected her differently.

Jen Rutner shares the story of her daughter’s birth, from the perspective of an adoptive mom, and encourages everyone to see the power in their family’s birth and unity stories and share it in We Have a Birth Story

If you are still writing your post, or these posts inspire you, link up in the comments. Additional posts will be added through the next few days, so check back in to see if any new posts pop up, and feel free to leave some general comments on the topic below.

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Geochick says: October 31, 2013 at 10:16 AM I submitted mine a few weeks ago! Here it is again *sigh* http://geo-chick.blogspot.com/2013/10/birth-story.html Reply metholic says: October 31, 2013 at 3:05 PM Hi, I got your submission, but when I went to test the link it said there was no such page. When I emailed you from the email address provided in the contact form it came back saying failed delivery. I have added you to the list. Reply Geochick says: October 31, 2013 at 4:50 PM Oh crap, sorry about that. I probably typed my e-mail address in wrong and I posted it early, then took it down to put it up later, yada yada. I’ll do better next time. Reply

I submitted mine a few weeks ago! Here it is again *sigh*

http://geo-chick.blogspot.com/2013/10/birth-story.html

metholic says: October 31, 2013 at 3:05 PM Hi, I got your submission, but when I went to test the link it said there was no such page. When I emailed you from the email address provided in the contact form it came back saying failed delivery. I have added you to the list. Reply Geochick says: October 31, 2013 at 4:50 PM Oh crap, sorry about that. I probably typed my e-mail address in wrong and I posted it early, then took it down to put it up later, yada yada. I’ll do better next time. Reply

Hi, I got your submission, but when I went to test the link it said there was no such page. When I emailed you from the email address provided in the contact form it came back saying failed delivery. I have added you to the list.

Geochick says: October 31, 2013 at 4:50 PM Oh crap, sorry about that. I probably typed my e-mail address in wrong and I posted it early, then took it down to put it up later, yada yada. I’ll do better next time. Reply

Oh crap, sorry about that. I probably typed my e-mail address in wrong and I posted it early, then took it down to put it up later, yada yada. I’ll do better next time.

Seriously?! says: October 31, 2013 at 11:08 AM I would love to see PAIL do a feature post on Airport Stories. They are by far some of the best stories of beautiful unions out there. 90% of the time, we hear about ‘birthing’ in posts. Can we celebrate ‘unions’ as well? There are a few bloggers out there that have created picture/video stories of the first time they met their child – They are truly AHHHHHHHMAZING!!! Just some food for thought… Reply J o s e y says: October 31, 2013 at 11:24 AM I love the terminology of “union” posts – it really is more inclusive. I had never thought of this! Thanks for the idea – we’ll definitely add it into our idea pile! Reply

I would love to see PAIL do a feature post on Airport Stories. They are by far some of the best stories of beautiful unions out there. 90% of the time, we hear about ‘birthing’ in posts. Can we celebrate ‘unions’ as well? There are a few bloggers out there that have created picture/video stories of the first time they met their child – They are truly AHHHHHHHMAZING!!! Just some food for thought…

J o s e y says: October 31, 2013 at 11:24 AM I love the terminology of “union” posts – it really is more inclusive. I had never thought of this! Thanks for the idea – we’ll definitely add it into our idea pile! Reply

I love the terminology of “union” posts – it really is more inclusive. I had never thought of this! Thanks for the idea – we’ll definitely add it into our idea pile!

itsjustaboxofrain says: November 1, 2013 at 1:53 PM Here is my addition, with my experience of adoption http://itsjustaboxofrain.wordpress.com/2013/11/01/pail-monthly-post-birth-stories-when-you-arent-the-one-who-has-given-birth/ Reply

Here is my addition, with my experience of adoption http://itsjustaboxofrain.wordpress.com/2013/11/01/pail-monthly-post-birth-stories-when-you-arent-the-one-who-has-given-birth/

Wifey says: November 1, 2013 at 2:10 PM Late to the party but still joining in… http://punchtodayintheface.blogspot.com/2013/11/pail-birth-story.html Reply

Late to the party but still joining in…

http://punchtodayintheface.blogspot.com/2013/11/pail-birth-story.html

traathy says: November 2, 2013 at 12:56 AM Late to the game, with no post to share, but just a thought of when our kids are older what they are going to ask us is something along the lines of “tell me about the night we became a family”. Birth, union, or airport – it’s all about the day your family went up a number :) Reply

Late to the game, with no post to share, but just a thought of when our kids are older what they are going to ask us is something along the lines of “tell me about the night we became a family”.

Birth, union, or airport – it’s all about the day your family went up a number :)

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